With Hallowe’en creeping up on us, what better time to show a styled shoot with the gothic overtones of Edgar Allan Poe? I’ve lost my head (not sorry about these puns at all) over the styling with lots of skulls, both animal and human, a raven, ruins, the dark bouquet, and the most beautiful cascading dresses that look so divine at the same time as also looking faded and distressed – how have you done that?! The main dress, in particular, reminds me of my two very favourite designers: Vivienne Westwood and Alexander McQueen. With touches of John Galliano and Jean-Paul Gaultier. Basically, it’s awesome. And the bridesmaid’s dress is just on the right side of sweet but toughened up with the peacock feather ruff and hair pin and also the purple platform boots. This is bold stuff.
If you love your gothic literature and imagery, you could incorporate many of the details from this shoot into your own wedding styling, easily. If you wanted a subtle nod, I would take the wedding dress and perhaps the pages of the novel made into bunting, or the deep, dark bouquet tones. In fact, just one or two of the elements shown would be enough for people to get the gist. Plenty here to choose from!
I’m sure you’ll have noticed a distinct lack of posts of late (blame the house move!), so I thought I would do some quick fix inspiration posts! Here are some wicked headpieces for you while you drink your evening wine/tea/hot cocoa.
Top left – Peacock and Lotus
Top right – Fairytale Flower
Bottom left – Elibre
Bottom right – Aya Jewellery
We most of us have worried about our weight from time to time. Whether it’s because we feel under pressure from the media, or that we’re coming from a health angle, it happens. Add to this the pressure of a wedding day with all the expectations that surround that, and well you have yourself quite the perfect storm for pondering if you should lose weight in time for walking down the aisle.
I was a little over and above what I felt comfortable with weight wise in the months before my own wedding day, so I went running and to the gym. Not because I thought I was hideous, or that my husband-to-be thought I was (he didn’t and has always made me feel like a goddess no matter what the bathroom scales have said to me), but because my weight just didn’t make me feel like me. I feel like myself around a certain ballpark figure, so I aimed to get back to kind of near there. I didn’t really achieve the goal weight, and was heavier than I am now, but I felt more familiar and that was more than dandy! Basically, I was getting back to myself anyway and the wedding day just happened to be in the middle of that!
When the fabulous Karen Whybro from Rock the Frock Bridal sent me this piece on the losing weight for your wedding quandary, I snapped it up for you guys. It’s a brilliant word in your ear about how to navigate the pressure we can all feel over being a certain weight on your big day…
Engaged? Great! Now, where do we start? If you look to magazines, blogs or newspapers for your bridal inspiration, you’re probably aware of just how enormous the wedding machine is and how brides-to-be are bombarded with information and images right from the start. Inspiration is one thing, but what happens when that inspiration turns into pressure?
The wedding industry can be a full-on place to inhabit. The usual media rules mean most bridalwear images are of size zero models draped over a chaise-longue or standing in the middle of a cornfield looking wistful. Wonderful. But let’s face it, we’re not all a size zero, and thank goodness! But, the day when all eyes are on you, and with photographs that last forever, lots of brides feel the need to get as close as they can to that ‘ideal’ portrayed all around us.
And, sadly, the wedding industry is full of weight loss schemes – pills, diets, exercise regimes, shakes, wraps and the like, all designed to play on those wedding day insecurities. The wedding day weight loss brigade is a huge monster of an industry that serves one purpose: to make money. These people don’t actually care if you’re a size 8 or 18 on your wedding day, so who else really will?
If asked “Should I lose weight for my wedding day?” my first answer would be this:
“Who are you losing it for?”
Chances are, your other half proposed to you at the weight you are now, right? Your friends and family when you first announced your engagement are still your friends and family who’ll be there on the day, swooning over your choice of dress and blubbing at the ceremony.
Some brides will want to lose a little weight for themselves, to feel at their best on the big day. Some want to get back to the weight they were when they met their partner, which is fair enough. It’s all about choice. Choosing which weight-loss plan you use is also hugely important and keep the focus on health over weight.
Now, I know this sounds like a crazy claim, but guess what? Being thin doesn’t always equal looking your best. I’ve heard of brides ordering their dream dress two sizes too small to force themselves into losing weight for the wedding. While this might sound like a good idea, let’s think about real life! Yes, your wedding day is hugely important, but life goes on while you’re wedding planning and it can be hugely stressful in the run up to the big day. Having this extra pressure of HAVING to lose the weight by a deadline will add massively to that stress. And, what happens if you don’t make it? Squeezing into that dress is never a good idea and definitely won’t result in your looking your best!
Even if you are a little heavier than you’d like, an experienced stylist in a bridal boutique would be able to advise you on the best shape, style and fabrics to choose to flatter your figure. Choosing the right dress is crucial to looking your best, regardless of weight. Over everything else, this should be the biggest consideration for you when planning your bridal style. And the rule of wedding dress shopping? Try everything! Many brides walk away with a dress that is very different to what they first pictured themselves wearing. A hairdresser told me recently to cover the model’s face when choosing a hairstyle from a magazine, and I think this is a great tip for brides. Look at your body shape, and then choose a dress that works for you.
Whether it’s the cost of the venue, which invitations to choose or what colour the bridesmaids do or don’t want to wear, the whole wedding planning process can be a stressful one. At the end of the day, when you’re looking back at those pictures and wishing you could do it all again, all that matters is the happy couple. And you’re at your happiest when you’re being true to yourself. Be you and be proud!
What do you think? Have you felt under pressure? Succumbed to the pressure? Said “sod off” to the pressure?! Let us know!
Photography – Kerrie Mitchell Photography
Dresses – Rock the Frock Bridal
Image via Wedding Magazine
This time last week, I was heading off to the Wedding Magazine Blog Awards at The Savoy! I was so, so nervous, and I didn’t know what to expect at all. When I got off the train in London, I found that I didn’t have a clue how to get to the Savoy, even though I lived and worked in London for 11 years and one of my employers has offices almost next door. Oh dear. Navigation was never one of my skills! I faffed around in Liberty for an age and picked up my loyalty card holder’s birthday gift. I was totally putting off going through sheer nerves!!
When I got there, I got speaking to the absolutely lovely Lauren from The Natural Wedding Company – also up for the Best Alternative Wedding Blog award – and my nerves soon calmed because we were chit chatting away like old chums. I met in person for the first time a lot of gorgeous fellow bloggers and photographers who I’d only ever spoken to over email and social media before. It was fabulous, they were so friendly and warm, and I was a little star struck at first – so silly! However, there were so many more people that I didn’t get to speak to, which was disappointing, but next time for sure.
Me with the loveliest Erica of Mr and Mrs Unique and Alexa of Lexy Loy Photography – loved these two!!
There was a photobooth by Boothnation (with a wind machine!!), which I was hideously rubbish at – the only other one of these things I’ve ever been in was when I was getting serious passport photos done. I had no clue and hence have the expression of a slapped fish, ha!
The cakes by Choccywoccydoodah were exceptional, the canapés were divine, and the champagne was ever flowing! Thank you so, so much to Wedding Magazine, By Bruce Russell, and The Savoy (which, by the way, is beyond fancy, it’s a dreamscape of a place) for an excellent night!
And thanks to one of my best friends in the world, Lindsay, who was my plus one – we’ve known each other since school, so we just had a great laugh all night catching up as everything happened fabulously around us. Love you, Linds! xx
Choccywoccydoodah cupcake gorgeousness
The Savoy – a place beyond swanky
And the biggest thank you goes to all the gorgeous folk who first of all nominated me and then voted for me. I can’t even explain what that meant to me as such a new blogger on the scene. It gave me a big confidence boost that I can actually do this amazing thing that I’m lucky enough to call my job, that I’m of help to those getting married, and that you forgive me my rather erratic (at the moment!) publishing schedule. Seriously, thank you. I love each one of you for voting. Hugs by the million!
I didn’t win but I seeing my blog up on the screen was kind of close!!
And last but in no way least – congratulations to all the winners!! I whooped several times as my favourites won or got highly commended. Well-deserved, blogger babes!
The other incredibly exciting thing is that the redesign is almost complete!! I’ll go through all the changes once they’re live, but let me know what you think so far. I love the huge pictures and the cleaner look. Much more me!
The Weddings, etc.
Photo via A Beautiful Mess
- 10 things to do for the first 10 minutes of your day – I love this simple little list. I really want to break the cycle of being awake for a nanosecond before picking up my phone like a robot and cycling through all the social networks and emails and aagh everything!!
Fancy winning yourself an engagement shoot from alternative photographer Paula Broome? Yes, I hear you say! Well, head over to Ultimate Wedding Magazine immediately and enter here! Closing date is Hallowe’en, so get a crack on!
Frauke and David’s big day was meant to have been an elopement, but once the neighbourhood heard about the wedding, they all came out to celebrate and it turned into a party! You can see this relaxed, go-with-the-flow feeling trace its way throughout their whole day, and looking at the gorgeous photos will chill you out totally! I just love the vibe from this wedding.
The couple and their children, Amelie and Nuno, often come to Portugal from Germany to holiday in Monte Gordo, where David’s family is originally from, so the place has a strong, sentimental meaning for them all. The bride says that the narrow, picturesque neighbourhood streets are super colourful with lots of washing lines blowing in the wind. It’s a ready-made romantic setting for a wedding celebration.